How is your self-confidence?

Confident people speak with conviction and aplomb. They pay attention to others. They do not overestimate themselves, are without arrogance and stand out rather by their calm and… their self-confidence!

Having confidence in oneself means first and foremost knowing one’s abilities in one’s doing and being and approaching life with self-confidence. But it is sometimes difficult to know one’s real abilities because our assessment is often influenced by the judgment of others, which leads some people to underestimate themselves.

Two exercises to become aware and assess our level of confidence.

Take the time to observe oneself

Take a few minutes before entering a meeting, at work or restaurant for example, observe how you feel and try to qualify your confidence level on a scale of 1 to 5. Repeat the exercise on different occasions and notice situations that elicit harsh judgment and, on the contrary, those for which you feel more confident. It will be interesting to take notes on what you see and the awareness that results from it.

What do you talk about with yourself?

Another element of observation for which it is necessary to take notes: your inner speech! How do you describe yourself? What are your words, the words you use to talk about yourself, to yourself and others? What are the comments that come to mind when you consider your appearance, your qualifications, your ability to communicate, learn, lead or take on challenges? What do you have to say about your parenting skills, your romantic and professional relationships? What is your opinion of yourself in general?

All the answers to these questions and the inner discourse you give to them can say a lot about your level of trust.

One of the recurring obstacles to achieving our goals is the lack of self-confidence, deep personal trust.  It can be a major obstacle to personal and professional development, so taking the time to observe oneself and listen to one’s inner speech are exercises that are all important when one suspects a low level of self-confidence.

Your confidence index is balanced, and your inner dialogue is positive?   You are most certainly a pleasant person to meet, calm and thoughtful, a good ear, turned towards others, you are not afraid of being wrong and you do not hesitate to admit your mistakes or ask for help.

However, if you tend to compare, excuse or justify yourself, or are often undecided or defensive, it’s a safe bet that your level of confidence needs a boost.

Coaching, an avenue to consider

Coaching aims precisely to help the person being coached to develop and, above all, to maintain a good level of self-confidence. Through tools, exercises, and awareness-raising, including by identifying and modifying one’s internal discourse, which depreciates and devalues, one is able to reach a prominent place on the scale of the level of confidence, thus removing an important obstacle to the achievement of one’s objectives and the development of one’s full potential.

The emergence of this trust will have a beneficial effect in all spheres of your life. Moving forward in life with confidence confers lightness and determination and creates unexpected opportunities.

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